Silent Shadows

Few things have more impact with less noise than a shadow. The shadow of a tree or a building can give relief from the heat and respite from a crowd. The same is true of the shadow of the life of someone important to us. For example, in Acts 5:15 many of the people of Jerusalem carried the sick out into the street “…that at least Peter’s shadow might fall upon some of them as he passed by.” And the same is true of our shadows on the lives of others. They fall noiselessly and like many other great marvels are cast silently.

Nature is silent. The sun rises in the morning with all of its radiance and beauty in the East—silently. The sun descends in the West—silently. The seasons come and the seasons go quietly. We are blessed with the wonders of the springtime when we observe the crocuses, the daffodils, and the dogwoods. With Wordsworth, we can say, “Then my heart with rapture fills and dances with the daffodils.” Yet the springtime comes silently, and in the fall of the year the leaves turn colors and fall to the ground—silently. As David wrote in Psalm 19:3, “They have no speech, they use no words;
no sound is heard from them.”

When Peter walked down the street doing good, he may not have known that his shadow was falling silently behind . Our greatest work and most effective ministries are often done silently. Our shadows are forever with us, as are the shadows of others on us.

Our shadows are dependent upon our relationship with Jesus Christ who is the light of the world. We know that if we walk toward the sun, our shadows fall behind us. If we walk toward Jesus who is the light of the world, then inevitably his shadow falls behind us.

Don’t forget that your shadow is falling on the lives of people you come in contact with; even though we don’t hear them, our shadows of influence have great impact.

About Giving Advice: Don’t Do It!

We all have difficulties solving our own problems, but we usually feel pretty confident in knowing how others can solve theirs! Some of us are quick to give advice, which is rarely a good idea. We need to go back to the admonition of James to be quick to listen and slow to speak (James 1:19). That includes giving advice. A dear Christian lady, smiling, told me years ago, “Steve, don’t give advice. If you give advice and the people take it and it works, they will give you no credit. But if they take your advice and it does not work, they will blame you!” Needless to say, she was doing exactly what she said not to do, but she was right. Even when people ask, be careful about telling them what to do. People get pretty defensive when you start giving advice. The experts tend to agree. Both psychologist Greg Hale and advice columnist Jeffrey Zaslow, author of Tell Me All About It, offer points about advice: Tread carefully. Pick a calm moment. Pose a series of gently probing questions. Offer suggestions with the preface, “This is something that has worked for me.” The greatest communicator of all, Jesus Christ, usually combined advice giving with other techniques. One of his favorites was the use of questions. For example, he could have simply gathered his disciples together and said, “You have been with me long enough to realize I am the Son of God and it is time for you to affirm that to the people around you.” But he did not. Instead he used a series of questions, “Who do people say that I am?” (Matthew 16:13-16) The disciples have different responses, such as “John the Baptist” and “Elijah the prophet.” Then Jesus asked, “But who do you say that I am?” Peter said, “You are the Christ, the Son of the living God” (Matthew 16:16). This affirmation was a key moment in his relationship with the disciples and he made it happen with the questioning technique. Paul tells us we are not to use harsh words, and advice often comes across to people that way (Ephesians 4:29-32). Don’t give advice freely; seek to help others to find solutions to their problems through thoughtful questions and kindness.

Contrasts

In one sense, life is made up of contrasts. We have night and day, cold and hot, sun and moon, health and illness, young and old—just to name a few. Granddaddy and Josh

The Lord often taught in contrasts. He demonstrates righteousness by contrasting sheep and goats (Matthew 25). He illustrated faithful churches by contrasting heaven and hell (John 14). He demonstrates a healthy prayer life by contrasting the Pharisee and the tax collector (Luke 18).

Jesus continually wants us to realize that there is a difference in living in this world and living to prepare for eternity. When this contrast seems blurred to us, we need to reevaluate our lives and perspectives on things. If right and wrong actions are not clear, then we are not seeing clearly the contrasts in life. When we feel ambivalent about truth and temptations are not obvious, we need to take stock of how we are living for and serving God. If our value system is inconsistent, we need to do some soul-searching.

Are we building our lives on rock or sand (Matthew 5:14-16)? Are we seasoned with or without salt (Matthew 5:13)? Are we on the narrow or broad path (Matthew 7:13-14)?

Let’s keep life in perspective by looking at contrasts. We need to serve rather than give in to selfishness. We must desire to be pure instead of impure. We want to speak kind words instead of angry words. We want to be gentle and not harsh. We must work to be patient instead of short-tempered.

We view life in a variety of ways, and one way to help us live to serve Jesus is to understand the alternatives of life through contrasts. Learn to think of our Christian walks in terms of contrasts and to keep this world separate from that which we are all preparing for-eternal life.

Let’s Make a Deal

From the old television program to a simple exchange between salesperson and customer, there is something exciting about making a deal. Bargaining for an item at an auction or sale may be as much fun as the actual purchase—except when it comes to seeking a “deal” with God.

The Old Testament has several examples of people wanting a deal with God. Hezekiah sought an extra 15 years of life from God. Gideon sought the fleece deal (fleece dry and ground covered with dew and vice versa) with God to prove that God would really save Israel against the enemy. But the problem with deal-making with God is that it shows a basic lack of faith in God, and the consequences can be tragic.

For example, in Judges 12:30-40, Jephthah made a deal for God to give the Ammonites into his hands. Jephthah said that when he came home from battle he would sacrifice whatever came out of the door of his house to meet him. We read then in verse 34, “When Jephthah returned to his home in Mizpah, who should come out to meet him but his daughter, dancing to the sound of timbrels! She was an only child.” How devastating! He should have just trusted in God from the beginning.

We are tempted at times to make deals with God. “God, if you will just help me recover from this illness…” or “God, if you will just help through this problem…” then I’ll be faithful and really dedicate my life to you. We should simply realize that God is already there to help us and sustain us—God has given us his assurances that he will be with us if we will follow him.

One of the reasons the story in Genesis 22 of Abraham’s willingness to offer his son Isaac as a sacrifice is so inspiring is that he did not try to make a deal with God to spare his son’s life. He simply arose early in the morning to carry out God’s command.

Deal-making should be left to the tangible insignificant material things of life, not those circumstances that have eternal implications for the soul.

My Feet in a Large Room

The Bible discusses many things that we might not include if we were the writers. For example, my feet would probably not be a topic I would choose to discuss. But God’s word comments on feet! In Psalm 31:8, we read, “And you have not given me into the hands of the enemy, but have set my feet in a large room.” Now notice the scripture does not talk about big feet – but rather a big room. I’m glad about that. In fact, literal feet in a room is not the point of the words we read.

The point of the passage is that God always wants us to expand our spiritual horizons—thus the word picture “…my feet in a large room.” He wants us to broaden our sense of worth and to appreciate our abilities to accomplish great things for his cause. We all face the challenge of not limiting his nature and power through us and through his Word. We may “place God in a box” and thus limit his greatness in the world around us.

Throughout the Bible we see God challenging people to think bigger and see more far-reaching goals in doing his work. Remember some of the admonitions he made to his people. He prodded Moses to take his people to the promised land. He inspired Isaiah to be his missionary. He motivated Jonah to go and preach to the city of Nineveh. He convinced the band of twelve to go and evangelize the world. He sent Philip to preach to the eunuch. God persuaded Barnabas and Saul to preach to the Gentile world.

We need to remember the power of God as Paul describes it in Ephesians 3:20-21: “Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to the power that is at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever! Amen.” We need to expand the way we think and the possibilities on God’s behalf.

Put your feet in a large room.

 

Coincidence or Spirit-Led?

As I grow older I believe this adage: “There is no such thing as coincidence.” I believe that when we are seeking to live close to God, we become more aware of the Spirit guiding us and giving us opportunities to minister for Him.

One of my favorite singers is Johnny Cash; thus I could not resist reading one his biographies. In the book there is a story that demonstrates this idea.

Johnny Cash and his family were walking down 57th Street in New York one Sunday when he happened upon the First Baptist Church of New York. He saw from a sign that services were about to start, so he and his family went in.

The congregation was seated as they entered, but about halfway down the aisle a young boy was turned around, watching the door. He saw them, immediately jumped up, and yelled, “Johnny Cash! Johnny Cash has come to church with me.”

The only three seats available were the ones next to him and his parents. He was so excited, “I told you!” he kept saying to his parents. “I told you he was coming.”

The preacher came over and explained to them that, yes, the boy told his parents, and the whole congregation, repeatedly that Johnny Cash was going to walk into that church, sit down by him and worship with him. And that’s what he did.

After services, his parents came over and filled the story in for Johnny. They were Jewish, they said, but their son had decided to become a Christian after listening to some of Johnny’s gospel recordings.

That’s why they were in a Christian church on Sunday morning. They were in that particular church because that’s where he knew Johnny was going to walk in the door.

When a thought comes in your mind to say something to a stranger or help a neighbor or friend, put that thought into action. Maybe it’s not coincidence, but the Spirit leading you to be Jesus to someone that day.

Don’t Quit!

I know we all need the mercy and grace that God provides through his son, Jesus Christ. But probably all of us at times fail so much we think about giving up on living for him.

That is one of the reasons Paul is such an inspiration to me. He does not mention his specific weaknesses in this passage, but his passionate feelings seen in his description of his efforts at self-control tell me that at times he failed in his Christian walk. His thoughts in I Corinthians 9:26-27 give me comfort in my own struggles. He writes, “Therefore I do not run like someone running aimlessly; I do not fight like a boxer beating the air. No, I strike a blow to my body and make it my slave so that after I have preached to others, I myself will not be disqualified for the prize.”

From secular careers we have insight that failing is not fatal. Babe Ruth hit 714 home runs in his career, but he also struck out 1,330 times-a record.

Burma Shave, the first brushless shaving cream, was finally created with formula 143. Actually, the chemist was up to formula number 300 and then accidentally discovered that if you aged formula 143 for several weeks, you got a fine shave with it. If you have lived several decades, you may remember the roadside Burma Shave signs such as this one: “The whale put Jonah down the hatch, but coughed him up because he scratched—Burma Shave.”

Remember each new day is a new beginning. God does not give up on you; don’t give up on serving God.

High Stakes Dominoes

I’ve learned the past few weeks in Natal how much the role of curiosity plays in what we pay attention to. Almost every morning, very early, I sit on our third floor balcony overlooking a busy city street with a median between the lanes of traffic. The median includes palm trees, much trash, old abandoned tires, and a small amount of space that is a tiny park with seats embedded in the concrete floor.

What draws my attention to the middle section of the street is an elderly man who comes to the same spot on the median and stands observing traffic and people.

He follows the same pattern each day. He will cross the street to his spot in the park-like area of the median, stand, and turn completely around to observe the people and the traffic. He looks down at the ground and searches for a weed to pull, pitches it away from his space, rubs his hands together, and sits on the same stool with one foot on the seat of a nearby stool, and watches. He wears flip-flops, a net tank top, and short pants. The clothes always match colors and his hair is carefully combed.

After he finishes these rituals, he will greet anyone who comes near his spot.

The gentleman usually stays an hour and then leaves—probably to go home for breakfast.

Most days I will see him a little later from our building with 4-5 other “retirees” sitting on the stools playing dominoes. The many cars and motorcycles that pass by on each side do not distract them. About noon they disperse and the same routine is repeated most days.

Since I do not speak Portuguese, I can only speculate on their conversation. Do they discuss the rainy season, the amount of traffic, complain about the government? And how about the dominoes game? Do they lay money on the table and the winner gets the pot? Or is this a game just to while the time away?

I can’t resist watching each morning the rituals that unfold and the discussion over dominoes that ensues. I’m simply curious and that alone keeps my attention. Dominoes anyone? What kinds of things are you curious about? What holds your attention?

Musings of a Temporary Resident of Natal

I know no Portuguese and many Brazilians know very little English. This is challenging for me. For example, buying groceries in a large grocery can be intimidating. Today I got in line to check out, not realizing that there was a big sign that said a maximum of 20 items for that lane. I had already placed my 40+ items of groceries on the conveyor belt. Trying to explain was not successful at all. However, I guess the check-out person could see how confused I was because she went ahead and processed my groceries.Hiper

Having experienced several communication problems over the past three weeks, here are some lessons I have learned.

Review your skills at charades. I have found that if you do enough describing with your hands and arms, you have a good chance of getting your message across. One of my students brings to our sessions an artist’s sketchbook which he uses to visually help me understand what he means. This usually works well. Nodding my head and smiling when I understand the drawing will seal the completion of his message.

Another way to communicate in a language you do not understand is a booklet like Point It: The Traveler’s Language Kit . This resource has hundreds of photos of everything from “toothbrush” to “snow chains.” Just point to what you are looking for and the picture book approach has completed the communication.

If all else fails, seek out a person nearby who speaks English and ask him or her to interpret. For example, in the grocery store episode, a man overheard us and, since he spoke English, was kind enough to come to our rescue. After the explanation about our ignorance, the woman checking us out understood and smiled as we left. Better to be ignorant than rude!

One of the benefits of learning to deal with language barriers is that after I get back to the United States, I hope to be more sensitive to the nuances of English and more aware of the person’s reaction as I speak. I certainly will be more aware of visitors who may not speak English and will welcome the opportunity to help them.

So one way to improve your interpersonal communication here at home is to visit a country such as Brazil where English is not common; you will learn a new culture as well as becoming a more compassionate and aware communicator.

A Promise Not to Complain

My wife says I constantly complain about the orange barrels and traffic cones when driving the streets and highways in the Cincinnati area. But I promise not to complain again.

I have only been a passenger in cars, not a driver, since I arrived in Natal, Brazil, three weeks ago. As a result I have spent a lot of time watching traffic flow and all that goes with it. As I am told often, “This is just the Brazilian way.”

Let me explain. There is no speed lane on the highways; all lanes are speed lanes! Cars dart in and out of traffic at will. Motorcycles weave in and out of traffic stopped at traffic lights. They also pass cars on the curb side.

Donkey & cart

In addition to bicycles, men and women pushing wheelbarrows are on the busy highways as they look through trash left on the medians of many streets. Occasionally, a donkey and cart whose driver is also picking from the trash ambles down the street. When they spot something they want, they stop in the lane of traffic and put the item in their cart or wheelbarrow. Cars maneuver around these and seem to think nothing about it.

Speed limit signs are posted haphazardly on city streets so you are not sure how fast to go in some areas. Not only are speed limit signs rare, but often intersections have no stop signs. So drivers ease into the intersection and hope for the best.

When there is a hard rain, streets flood quickly and a car can easily get stuck unless the driver is very careful.

Traffic weaves around large potholes and even then it is hard to avoid a particularly rough spot in the road.

What impresses me most is that no one seems to complain like I do about roads in the United States. They simply shrug their shoulders and say, “This is the Brazilian way.” I hope I can keep my promise that I will never complain again about the highways in the United States. If I forget, I’m sure my wife will remind me.

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