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Lazy Speech Habits

“I listened recently to a teacher using “uh” so often that it became distracting and I could not pay attention to his content. We speakers use a variety of catch phrases, including “you know,” “OK,” “and uh,” and “et cetera.” Using filler words or verbalized pauses as transitions or to fill space between sentences can affect the speaker’s credibility as well as how audiences accept the speaker’s content.

In addition, using a word over and over can have the same distracting effect. My wife pointed out to me that I overuse the word “just” in both my speaking and writing. Once on my student evaluations at the end of a semester, several students commented that I overused “class.” I said way too often, “Now, class, you need to turn to page…,” or “Class, you need to remember to….” I was not even aware I was using the word, let alone so frequently that several in that section commented on the bad habit.

Because we may not be aware of when we use certain expressions, we have a hard time making the corrections. At all costs, avoid the verbalized pause, “uh,” or “and-uh,” to maintain the sanity of your audience and enhance your credibility.

Here are some techniques to cope with that weakness.

Ask someone you know who will be in the audience to listen for meaningless expressions, verbalized pauses, or overused words. When you identify those, you have several choices to eliminate them.

Choose a new word to use instead and discipline yourself to substitute the new word or phrase two or three times in your next speech. Write it in your notes if that will help. For example, if you have trouble using “you know,” substitute “also” or “in addition to….”

Use a pause to show you are through with the thought and simply go to your next point without filling in the silence. You may feel awkward not saying anything when you have habitually said “you know” at the beginnings or ends of most of your thoughts; but trust me, audiences will listen better to the next sentence if it is preceded by silence to show punctuation instead of an unnecessary expression.

The last suggestion is to develop key internal summary sentences that you include between main points. This will help you avoid the needless sounds because you will be concentrating on internal summary. For example you could say, “Now that we have talked about the positive use of the pause, let us now move on to internal summaries.”

As a speaker you are evaluated by the choice of words you use to express your ideas. Don’t accept the extra burden of allowing meaningless words or sounds lower your credibility.

My guess is that when we say “You know” for the tenth time in five minutes and an audience member yells out, “No, I don’t know. Tell me!” we will stop using it.

When a Film is Better Than the Book

I like to see movies where a character in history is brought to life. One of my favorites recently is Lincoln, starring Daniel Day-Lewis as Abraham Lincoln.

One favorite character was Thaddeus Stevens, played by Tommy Lee Jones because I had studied his speaking when I was in graduate school. Although he certainly had an important role in passing the Thirteenth Amendment, which outlawed slavery, my main memory of his speeches was the one he gave in the Pennsylvania House of Representatives, which saved free public schools in Pennsylvania.

I had always pictured him delivering a speech and admired his ability to move an audience. History demonstrates that his influence was enormous. Well, Tommy Lee Jones stamped in my mind the answers to any questions I had.

I don’t know if he accurately portrayed Stevens’ delivery and style, but now I have a specific mental image of what Thad Stevens looked like when he spoke and how he worked with an audience. Jones made him come to life by taking on his personality and speaking skills.

Seeing history come to life on the screen is a powerful way to remember an important historical figure that you studied in school.

Adapting Humor to Make It Your Own

On the television broadcast of the Macy’s parade on Thanksgiving, one of the performers was pop singer Chris Isaak. He said that he told his mother that he was performing at the Macy’s Parade and her response was, “Do they know that?”

This is a punch line that a speaker could make his or her own. For example, as you begin your speech you could include in your opening remarks, “I told my husband that I was the keynote speaker for [the organization you are speaking to], and his response was ‘Do they know that?’”

This punch line adapted to your situation accomplishes several things. You poke fun at yourself and an audience enjoys that. You creatively name the organization that you are speaking to, and you show your audience they will have some fun even if you have a serious topic.

As speakers, observe others who have content that people enjoy. Think about how you can adapt, not copy, material to your own speaking situation. If you hear a good punch line, think of ways you might make it your own.